A few months ago, I listened as a gentleman of a different and older generation say, “I feel sorry for those of you raising kids in today’s world.” His words, although meant to be sympathetic, sort of frustrated me a bit. I keep seeing on social media and hearing through conversations that children these days are just “doomed”. They are spoiled. They want immediate action. They are not being raised “right”…whatever that means.
Essentially, there is no hope for the younger generation…or so, they say.
Last week, I was a guest speaker at a local Vacation Bible School. I spoke to around 200+ children from ages four to thirteen. My topic was about what they can do to help foster children in their communities. The four-year-old’s through Kindergarten ages just did not quite understand what I was talking about, so we decided it would be more fun to sing songs. Besides, that’s way more fun, anyway! Right? After we were done, this little sweet-pea of a girl around the age of four came up to me and said, “We can give books to babies who don’t have them.” Oh, be still, my heart.
The eighth-grade boys…well…yeah. Let’s just say I’m SO looking forward to my son being in the eighth grade. NOT. Major kudos to those of you who teach this age group! Don’t get me wrong. They were respectful, but you know…a little “too cool for school”.
The first through seventh graders were listening with intent. When asked what they could do to help out children in foster care, they offered, “Help find them a home”, “Invite them to church”, “Tell them about Jesus”, “Give them a Bible”, and “Be nice and be their friend.” Children as young as the first grade were suggesting these things.
Afterward, I thought about the words of the older gentleman and his worries for those of us raising kids in today’s society. I also thought about the different editorial posts floating around Facebook and other social media forums that suggest that children of today do not have a chance. Call me an idealist, but I disagree.
Sure, life is vastly different that it was in the 70’s, 80’s, and 90’s. I was a young girl in the 70’s, in Junior High and High School in the 80’s, and a college student in the early 90’s (which, by the way, was awesome). Life is different now than it was during these time periods, but you know what is not different?
OPPORTUNITIES TO MESS UP.
OPPORTUNITIES TO MAKE IT RIGHT.
THE NEED TO CONNECT.
THE DESIRE TO DO GOOD.
Just a few days ago, my daughter told me that for one of her birthdays she wants to ask people to give gifts to homeless children and families, instead of her. Let that soak in a bit.
If my little sampling of children from Vacation Bible School and my daughter’s expression of what she wants to do are a reflection of “kids these days”, then I dare say, they are going to be just fine. So, please stop saying that children growing up in today’s society are doomed.
Quit judging us parents. We are doing the best we can (just like you were when you were raising kids). I am raising three children in today’s society. They struggle with various issues, but let me say, THEY ARE GOOD CHILDREN. They might misbehave from time to time, but they know right from wrong, and they have hearts that desire to seek friendship and to help others.
For the love of children, please stop thinking that all kids are just spoiled or misbehaved or don’t care about their fellow-man. I mean, come on. IF they are this way, then really, who should we be blaming?
If you think today’s generation of children is not going to turn out okay, what are you doing to help? Can I offer you a few suggestions?
- Help a young family that is struggling.
- Tutor kids at the local school.
- Teach a Sunday school class.
- Volunteer at the local Boy’s and Girl’s Club.
- Work with at-risk kids.
- Invite the neighborhood kids and parents over for dinner.
- Donate gift cards and other items to families in need.
- Love on that single mama doing the best she can.
- Encourage that daddy who is working two jobs to make the bills and put food on the table.
- Become a reading buddy to sick children in the hospital.
- Pray for families, children, and the world.
I can go on and on, but I suspect that you get the point. Or, at least I hope you do.
Please, stop saying that kids these days are not measuring up to what you think they should be. I, for one, refuse to believe this. If you spend any amount of quality time with a young child, I dare say, you will be amazed. They are not doomed. They are just beginning to sprout their wings into this vast world. They are learning about the world around them. Sure, there are things they face and deal with that we may not have as children, but still, the world has a lot of beauty in it. Let’s make sure we show this to them.
Our young generation will be the next teachers, parents, doctors, pastors, political leaders, chefs, scientists, explorers, artists, engineers, and caregivers.
For my children and for yours,
or the teenage boy who helps his disabled mother raise his younger siblings,
or the child who sells lemonade on her street to raise money for others,
or the young person who visits the elderly lady down the street because she is lonely,
or the boy who sticks up to the bully at school….
why would you think they are simply not adding up or are “doomed”?
After all, children are our future…
Give that a thought.