It was one of those moments that I wanted to get just right. My son, age seven, popped into the car after school and said, “Mommy, I’m popular!” I said, “Oh?” “Yes, I’m popular!”, he said with excitement.
I paused for a moment and asked, “What makes you popular?” He said, “You know…when you are good at things and people know you.” I paused again, searching for words, and then said, “Well, you know being popular is not the most important thing in life. Do you know what matters more than anything?”
In my mind, I was already rehearsing how loving others, being kind, sharing your gifts, not judging others, being a good friend, and being popular for being someone who causes others to feel accepted and loved, matters the most. Until this time, being popular, getting picked on, and other social issues had not entered into his first grade existence at his smallish elementary school. I had already decided that I was going to push person-hood before popularity. This was a teachable moment opportunity, and I was not going to let it slip by!
I asked again, “Do you know what matters more than anything?”
In his sweet little voice, he said, “God. God matters more than anything.”
Stunned, I sat there. Smiled a bit, and gathered my thoughts.
I said, “You are right. God matters more than anything, and you know, God wants us to be kind, generous, to be a good friend, to not judge, and to love others.” He said, “I know, Mommy, I know.”
And there it was….
my teachable moment....
my gentle reminder….
my continual realization that while I have so much to teach my children,
they have more to teach me.