Dear Expectant Teen,
I know you woke up this morning not expecting to be….well….expecting. You took the pregnancy test, it read positive, and now you are staring at yourself in the mirror with tears as heavy as the world rolling down your cheeks. I’m sure the taste of fear is in your mouth. Your mind is probably racing. You even might be thinking one or all of the following, “What will dad think?”, “I can’t face my youth pastor, teacher, or mom.”, “I won’t be able to be on the team this year.”, “What about college?”, or “What if he leaves me?”
I don’t know what it is like to stare at a pregnancy test in despair or joy. I’ll never pretend to be in your shoes or even try to walk in them. I will not judge you. I’m just another woman, like millions of others, who are unable to have biological children. I’m a woman who has been blessed by the incredible gift of adoption. This gift of children does not rest lightly in my heart. I cherish it.
I hope this makes it to your computer, Facebook, or email. Most importantly though, I hope it makes it to your heart. Before you consider your options, before you think about adoption, abortion, or parenting, before you make the most difficult of all choices, please consider this:
The little boy or girl growing in your belly, your child, is there for a reason. Now, I’m not talking about the “reason” you became pregnant…no, I’m talking about purpose. You see, I was told at the age of eleven that I would never have a biological child. I was faced with that grim news at an age when I barely understood how a child is created. (It was 1983 and things were a lot different back then.) I remember wondering what my purpose was. Why was I on this Earth?
As I’ve grown into adulthood, the most amazing thing has happened. I’ve discovered my purpose. I’m not a celebrity. I don’t make a lot of money, and I’m really not much to shout about, but I love. I love my friends. I love my family. I love the children who became mine through adoption. I love life with all of the ups and downs. I love with my whole heart….and….I love you. You have been on my mind.
Your son or daughter could become a doctor or scientist who makes profound discoveries in our world. Your son or daughter might be an astronaut who flies off to other galaxies, or a teacher who makes a difference in a long forgotten school, or a social worker who teaches parents how to raise children free from abuse. Your son or daughter could become a missionary feeding orphaned children. Your son or daughter could possess the most beautiful singing voice any of us have heard, or become the next literary mastermind.
Even if your son or daughter doesn’t do any of the things above, your child has a purpose – to receive love and to share love. Your son or daughter might be the most kind person to someone who needs a little kindness.
What purpose is greater than that?
I want you to know that your decision – abortion, adoption, or parenting – are all very difficult decisions to make. Like I said earlier, I’m not going to judge you for your decision, but I sure hope you choose life. I’m so glad the birth mothers of my children did.
Please consider carefully what you will do with the little one growing inside of you. Seek professional counseling, pregnancy services, and prenatal care. There are many who have chosen abortion, and are walking with grieving steps throughout their days. There are also many who have chosen adoption. This decision carries grief as well, but they know that their child is in the safe, loving arms of parents who wanted so badly to have a child to call their own. The coos, first words, and pitter-patter of your child’s feet will be the sweetest sound the adoptive family will hear. The brave birth mothers who chose life and made an adoption plan know that their children are the center of another family’s universe, an answer to prayers, and the most significant thing that has happened in their lives.
Dear friend, you were on my mind today. I don’t know you, and I don’t know what you are going through, but I know that you are facing something you didn’t expect. You are facing someone you didn’t expect. You have a lot to think about, and many tears are sure to flow, but before you consider abortion, please consider this.
Another Woman Who Went From Being Barren to Blessed