Written by an adoptive mother, it tells the story of a Kangaroo who prayed for a baby. While under a tree, a baby bird fell out of its nest and landed right in her pouch. I looked all over for it in various bookstores and finally settled on ordering it from Amazon. I’m so glad that I did because I have read it several times to my children.
Recently when reading it to my son, we came to the part of the story that talks about how the mama bird noticed she had too many babies in her nest and decided to give the baby bird to the kangaroo. My son stopped and said “Wait! So….she gave her baby away?” I sat there for a second trying to read his expression. It appeared that he was not just asking a simple question about the story, but processing it as well.
I said to him, “Well, she decided that she could not give the baby bird all the attention that he needed and when she saw how much he was loved by the mama Kangaroo, she decided to let him stay with her.” I do not know if I answered it the right way or not, but he seemed okay with the answer. We finished the book, put it back on the shelf, and he returned to his usual routine of playing with Legos.
I have found it a little difficult to fully explain my children’s whole stories to them. This book helps in some way to promote positive feelings about adoption, but I have not been able to find a book suitable for young children that helps them understand foster care adoption. The truth is that both of my children were taken from their birth mothers involuntary for reasons of serious safety concerns and other issues. Their stories are not as easy to explain.
They did not just fall out of an overcrowded nest. Their birth mothers did not choose us as their parents. My son’s birth mother did sign away her rights voluntarily, but only after nearly 12 months of efforts to get him back. She did say that if she could not have him, she only wanted us to have him. But still…it is not the same. My daughter’s birth mother never made one effort to be reunified with her baby girl due to instability and other factors. It is hard to put drug abuse, chaotic home environments, and instability into kid friendly terms.
I have heard of books for older children adopted out of foster care, but none for young children who were taken into care as newborns and placed with the families they eventually were adopted by. All of this being said, I still do love A Blessing from Above, and have suggested it to numerous foster/adoptive families. It speaks of the goodness of adoption, of the love of birth mothers and adoptive mothers, and of the ultimate blessing that comes only from above.
Do you know of any children’s books that talk about foster care and foster/adoption? If so, please let me know!