Six years away. This is all I can think about right now. As you turn twelve, the thought that we only have six more years until you are a (legal) adult keeps coursing through my mind. Oh, my. Time fleets and flutters its way through our lives, especially when we are not paying attention.
We fought hard for you. I want you to know that. I don’t mean in physical words spoken out loud for others to hear. I mean in words whispered and cried out to our Father in Heaven. It wasn’t that our fight was just about you. Perhaps, just perhaps, it was also about us, about our own desires to become your forever parents, for an answer to the barrenness in our lives and for the abundant clarity of it all that only the Lord can bring. We also spoke those words for your birth mother. Please believe this.
Six years away. In this short amount of time, we will face obstacles. We will deal with middle school angst, puberty (I know….SO embarrassing), first loves and high school antics. As your parents, we will worry and fret about you becoming a driver. We will always worry a bit about you. Sorry. That’s just how it is.
Son, only six more years until we release you into the world. There are moments when my heart just can’t take it. I think fondly back to our early days. Sweetness seemed to follow you everywhere you went. Your curiosity about the world, whimsical expressions and overall silliness absolutely captured the hearts of many.
In so many ways, I still think of you as that little Mamma’s Boy that you once were. I know. I know. You are growing up. You don’t need me as much as you once did. You grimace and get embarrassed at me…often. Here’s the deal, though. I may embarrass you at times or get on to you about things, but I will never not love you. Ever.
Six years from now, you are declared an adult. Where has the time gone? What happened to yesterday and the day before that and the day before that? I used to believe that fostering you and not knowing what was going to happen was the hardest part. I now know that witnessing you grow up, dealing with the issues we have faced, and watching you crawl closer and closer to leaving is the hardest part.
I never understood the idea of half of my heart living outside of my body until I wrapped my arms around you.
If able to, I would go back and repeat each and every single day just to hold you and capture those moments one more time.
There is a lot of life to be lived between now and then. I know this. I also know that even though you will be an adult sooner than we are prepared for, you will always be our little boy, our first baby and one of the most important parts of our lives.
Son, on your 12th birthday, I want to say that I love you more each day. I am proud of you. I adore your quirks (even when they drive me crazy). I appreciate how you methodically think about Every. Single. Thing. I crack up at your goofy laugh and the many excuses you can come up with to not clean your room. It pleases my soul to see your gentleness with animals.
It both breaks my heart and fills it with joy to watch you grow into the person you are. For you, kiddo, are a good human being. You, son, are a blessing.
Happy Birthday, Bubby. Love you forever.
Only six years away…